When you were diagnosed, you may have put certain issues aside for a while, such as concerns about family, work, or finances. Now that treatments are over, these issues may begin to resurface just when you are tired and may feel that there is already too much to handle. Many cancer survivors also worry that stress may have played a role in their illness.
It is important to remember that the exact cause of many cancers is still unknown. No research shows that stress causes cancer, but stress can cause other health problems. Finding ways to reduce or control. Many survivors have found activities like the ones below useful in dealing with cancer and their worries after treatment ends.
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Ask your doctor, nurse, social worker, or local cancer organization about taking part in activities like these. Exercise Exercise is a known way to reduce stress and feel less tense—whether you've had cancer or not. As one man put it: "I can feel down a little bit, and it is a fine line with depression, but when I walk 45 or 50 minutes in the fresh air, I feel like I can take on the world sometimes. If you cannot walk, ask about other types of exercise that may be helpful. Other class members talk about the issues the "performer" was trying to express. Sharing personal stories Telling and hearing stories about living with cancer can help people learn, solve problems, feel more hopeful, air their concerns, and find meaning in what they've been through.
Personal Stories. Music and art Even people who have never sung, painted, or drawn before have found these activities helpful and fun. After treatment, you may still feel angry, tense, sad, or blue.
For most people, these feelings go away or lessen over time. For up to one in four people, though, these emotions can become severe. The painful feelings do not get any better, and they get in the way of daily life.
These people may have a medical condition called depression. For some, cancer treatment may have contributed to this problem by changing the way the brain works. Talk to your doctor. If your doctor finds that you do suffer from depression, he or she may treat it or refer you to other experts.
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Many survivors get help from therapists who are expert in both depression and helping people recovering from cancer. Your doctor also may give you medicine to help you feel less afraid and tense.
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If you have any of the following signs for more than two weeks, talk to your doctor about treatment. Research shows that one in four people with cancer reports memory and attention problems after chemotherapy. More research is needed to learn what causes these changes. These effects can begin soon after treatment ends, or they may not appear until years later.
They do not always go away. If a person is older, it can be hard to tell whether these changes in memory and concentration are a result of treatment or of the aging process. Either way, some feel they just cannot focus as they once did. Research is just starting to explore who may develop problems with memory and concentration. It seems that people who have had systemic chemotherapy or have had radiation to the head area are at higher risk of having these problems. People who have had high doses of chemotherapy may be particularly affected by memory problems, but even those who have had standard doses have reported memory changes.
Cancer survivors have found many ways to help improve memory after cancer treatment. See if any of these ideas work for you:. Some body changes are short-term, and others will last forever. Either way, how you look may be a big concern after cancer treatment. People with ostomies after colon or rectal surgery are sometimes afraid to go out.
They may feel shame or fear that others will reject them. They may be afraid they will have an "accident" and feel embarrassed. Others do not like people being able to see treatment effects like scars on the head or neck, skin color changes, loss of breasts or limbs, weight gain or loss, and hair loss.
Even if your treatment does not "show," your body changes may trouble you. Feelings of anger and grief are natural.
You have lost your "old body" and, with it, your sense of self. Feeling bad about your body can also lower your sex drive, and the loss of or reduction in your sex life can make you feel even worse about yourself. Changes in the way you look can also be hard for your loved ones—and this can be hard on you. Parents and grandparents often worry about how they look to a child or grandchild. They fear the changes in their body will scare the child or get in the way of their staying close. Many people find themselves feeling angry about having cancer or about things that have happened to them during their diagnosis or treatment.
They may have had a bad experience with a health care provider or with an unsupportive friend or relative. Hanging on to anger can get in the way of your taking care of yourself, but sometimes anger can energize you to take action to get the care you need. If you find yourself feeling angry, find a way to use that energy to help yourself. After treatment, you may miss the support you got from your health care team. You may feel as if your safety net has been pulled away and that you get less attention and support from health care providers now that treatment is over. You also may feel that only others who have had cancer can understand your feelings.
Feelings like these are normal any time you leave people who mean a lot to you. Finally, the last big give away, in my opinion, is the left links for the website. I know I would appreciate more people doing so.
My favorite of her posts so far is the stupid things people say to those with cancer and their families. Thank you so much for this post! Or even stupid. After sending a few e-mails to parents of my kids friends I received the most insane comment ever. I was asked if the the e-mail was a hoax sent by someone else because another mom of those that received the e-mail said her sister received a similar e-mail that was a hoax.
Nor will I ever again. A few more months into this i have many more stupid things to report but one that really gets me lately are the people who havent been there for me or my family and they finally call or e mail and launch into telling me how busy they have been since november, really. Without a peep from me they then make big promises, meals, shopping,rides…they are so busy making promises that they dont realize i finished chemo now, i havent been waiting around for their help and have things set up pretty well with my family and good friends.
What sticks in my craw is that I feel like they are being patronizing and rude, i just want to say, Ive been busy too with surgeries, chemotherapy, fearing for my life…What would be an appropriate response to these busy and unreliable friends? In my opinion an appropriate response is to distance yourself from these kind of people unless you need a gaggle of acquaintances to make yourself feel good. Empty people make empty promises. Why waste your valuable time on them? End of story. And much better things to say to be a friend to someone with serious illness.
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I think it is better to err on the side of the cancer patient not thinking its funny. Usually i have an incredibly dark sense of humor but with this whole thing im not finding these type of comments funny. What i hear is that the person saying them thinks I am not seriously ill and maybe thinks I am a little lazy and exagerating.
Probably not theirintent at all but i think people shoukd let the cancer patient take the lead inmaking inappropriate comments or not and follow from there. When i was in the midst of chemo i wished i could lay around and read but i was unable to concentrate on anything but the simplest tv show so this comment would have definitely hit a sore spot and hurt my feelings. I never looked for a support group during my treatment last year, although I did correspond with an acquaintance undergoing almost identical BC as myself, our surgeries a month apart, chemo a day apart with the same cycle.
I think we helped each other, or at least I feel we did. Thank you again and again. Some really touching words written here…. My father passed away from cancer when I was living abroad. He was sick before I left but I said I would return if he needed me and he said I should go. We kept in touch. You must not care for your father. And yes, people usually told stories of their friend, parent, dog, cat, bird, that had the same cancer and died… We heard this so many times we started to laugh when it was said….
But there were also some very good people… those who would come by with food or coffee and cakes and good conversation.
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Those who would just visit and enjoy our time together rather than treat mom like she was already dead…. I march to the beat of my own drum and always suggest everyone do the same thing. Being individualistic weather your sick with cancer or sick in the head is the spice of life, live it , love it, and enjoy every second of it because you NEVER know when your time is up. But I guess that will be an insult too.
I did write a long post on how to help and what to say the link is in the piece above because it was the most requested topic. Most people want to learn how to help friends or loved ones. It means you cared enough to see if there is anything helpful you could do in your desire to be a good friend. If you already know kind and supportive and truly helpful things to say, you would not need to learn. There are many people who do, but the tone and content of your comment leads me to believe that might not be the case.
Offers of concrete help were much more helpful, rides to treatment, prepared meals, etc.