Sometimes there is sadness in our journey, but there is also lots of beauty. We must keep putting one foot in front of the other even when we hurt, for we will never know what is waiting for us just around the bend. The man I have become is the result of two extraordinary parents, my Mom and Dad. They raised me, took me to doctor appointments, attended all of my basketball games, cleaned up after me as a child and loved me unconditionally. And in return, I learned to never take them for granted.
The man I am today, faults and all, is also the composite of every person that has ever touched me, lifted me up, taught me a valuable lesson and made me a better person. The way I love and care for my son is inspired by the love that my wife has shown me. On the night she met me, she went home, and wrote in her journal :. But my wife had the conviction — she knew. I nearly let fear destroy my life simply because the commitment to a lifetime of love with a very special person seemed daunting.
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I wanted to feel like she was getting the best man on the planet. But I came to accept that I will never be that. I can only be the best, most valuable version of myself. We love each other tremendously. Yet my most powerful human belief is that we all deserve to be loved. And the sooner we love how much more special it is to love, than to be loved , the richer life gets.
I think that without positive self-esteem it would be difficult to know your value. When you know your value, you will confidently approach a negotiation with full belief in your knowledge, skills, and experience and the difference you can make. For example if you help a client introduce a new process within their organisation, you are not too consumed by the process used but in how much they have benefited. Have they had an increase in sales or productivity or have they saved money? In any given situation, knowing your value means feeling that you are an equal with anyone you interact with: clients, bosses, colleagues, or friends.
You are not a supplicant. Nor do you feel privileged to be with someone or to work in a particular type of organisation. You have a personal sense of value and deservedness and assert yourself as an equal in personal and business relationships. Quite often out of fear of losing business or the desire to win more business, people will undercharge for their services. But, somehow, in a desire to prove themselves, these people still feel that they are not doing enough in relation to how much they are being paid.
This can set a precedent which could be hard to remove. I recall many years ago driving to a client site and deep inside I was unhappy and annoyed. This was because I was hugely undercharging and unhappy with myself for continually doing so.
You know your boundaries. You are clear about what is acceptable behavior, how you like to be treated and spoken to, and you have the courage to speak out when necessary. Read on to find out more about core values and how to find our values. When you are involved in work that is fulfilling as well as financially rewarding, you are more inclined to work with even greater commitment. I believe that when you love what you do, you are prepared to do more and to become more.
The primary function of leadership is to nurture culture through values. When you pitch for new business, you believe that you have sufficient experience and have the qualifications, case studies, and testimonials to back them up. You simply are.
Some of these indicators may resonate with you and others may not, but, in my view, being clear about your value leads to a greater sense of clarity and confidence about who you are and what you stand for. This can be in your personal life as well as in business. This confidence will be reflected in how you interact with people , deliver your service, and in the fees you charge or the salary you earn.
People who are confident and believe in themselves stand out. Here is a suggestion; for the next seven days, use the above list and write down how many ways you value yourself. Be honest. From your list select an area where you may not feel valued or would like to change, and ask yourself this question: If I valued myself more, what would I do in this situation?
Who would I be and what would be the first step I would take in asserting my self-worth?
The purpose of this exercise it to encourage you to recognise the qualities that lie within you and the areas that you need to work on. Photo: Unsplash. Quite inspiring have used other ways of making myself feel valued in the workplace as well as the home life relationships but the relationships failed as a product of partner asking how the day went , ultimately unloading at times as well as sometimes saying nothing. Imagine this: You just bought your favorite luxury car at a dealership in Santa Monica -- say, a Porsche in black or a Rolls Royce Phantom in white.
But, what about you? And as a result, people settle for less. The truth is, you carry your own gifts, strengths, talents and experiences. But the real truth is, the more you try to be like everyone else, the more you actually diminish your own self-worth and the more common or replaceable you become.
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The first decision is to take back ownership of your self-worth. The second decision is to recognize, celebrate and love the parts of you that make you special, unique and different. Take a few minutes to take a true inventory of your gifts, talents and unique life experiences.
Embrace and be grateful for them. The more you become self-aware in these, the more you can lean in and maximize them.